How To Be Happy
Yep, it’s true – products that work and quick-fix solutions are awesome but there’s nothing like feeling happy to make you really radiate. Beauty is more than skin deep, we all know that, right?
We’re also down with retail therapy as much as the next girl, but we all know that double breasted Gucci wool coat ain’t going to help you feel amazing in the long term. So today, we’re hitting happiness from a mind/body/spirit point of view, because there’s nothing like getting your mind in check and feeling the flow of positive energy.
We’ve been hooked on Wayne Dyer for, well, ever. He was a man of many spiritual and soulful talents. But mostly, he was a man who dedicated his life to helping others become more in touch with their hearts and follow a more positive path.
This is about stepping out of your head and into a more loving place that feels real, connected, truthful, still, whole. Isn’t that what life is about?
So read on to learn more tips from the Master. Peace out friends
Make your mantra, “I can choose peace rather than this”.
Peace is what enlightenment is. The very definition of enlightenment means to be surrounded by and immersed in peace at all moments. The higher part of ourselves only wants to be at peace.
Remind yourself that the greatest technique for bringing peace into your life is to always choose being kind when you have a choice between being right or being kind. This is the single most effective method I know for having a sense of peace. And you have that choice in all your interactions.
Take responsibility for your part. Removing blame means never assigning responsibility to anyone else for what you’re experiencing. It means that you’re willing to say, “I may not understand why I feel this way, but I’m willing to say without any guilt or resentment that I own it. I live with, and I am responsible for having it in my life.”
If you take responsibility for having the experience, then at least you have a chance to also take responsibility for removing it or learning from it. If you’re in some small (perhaps unknown) way responsible for that depressed feeling, then you can go to work to remove it or discover what its message is for you. If, on the other hand, someone or something else is responsible in your mind, then of course you’ll have to wait until they change for you to get better. And that is unlikely to occur. So you go home with nothing and are left with nothing when peace and happiness is really on the other side of the coin.
Forgiving others is essential for spiritual growth. Your experience of someone who has hurt you, while painful, is now nothing more that a thought or feeling that you carry around. These thoughts of resentment, anger, and hatred represent slow, debilitating energies that will dis-empower you if you continue to let these thoughts occupy space in your head. If you could release them, you would know more peace and happiness.
Switch the focus from blaming others to understanding yourself. Whenever you’re upset over the conduct of others, take the focus off those you’re holding responsible for your inner distress. Shift your mental energy to allowing yourself to be with whatever you’re feeling — let the experience be as it may, without blaming others for your feelings. Don’t blame yourself either! Just allow the experience to unfold and tell yourself that no one has the power to make you uneasy without your consent, and that you’re unwilling to grant that authority to this person right now.
THE POWER OF I AM
Throughout life you’ve been through a conditioning process that’s created a mind-set overflowing with I am nots. As a schoolchild with a less than satisfactory grade on your report card, you thought to yourself, I am not smart. You place anywhere other than number one and say, I am not talented. You feel criticized and believe that I am not good. You look in the mirror and compare yourself to a model or and tell yourself, I am not attractive. Your relationship fractures and you think, I am unloved or I am unworthy. These, and many more like them, are repeated throughout your developmental years and into adulthood, and become your core defining self-concept.
Overcoming this I am not mentality begins with trusting your inner world of spirit. There are no boundaries restricting your inner world. But your worldview and your self-concept in the outer world are defined by your five senses. The outer world is always changing, which, by our definition, means it is not real. This awareness that what remains unchanging is the only reality could lead you to experiencing a majestic wake-up call right here, right now.
Run through as large an inventory as you can of the things that you would like to define your life. Then make the shift in your imagination from an I am not or I am hoping to become to I am. Beginning with your inner dialogue, simply change the words that define your concept of yourself.
Instead of I am incapable of getting a job, shift to I am capable. Similarly, replace proclamations of I am not able to live in peace with I am peace. I am unlucky in love is replaced by I am love. I am unworthy of happiness becomes I am happiness. The words I am, which you consistently use to define who you are and what you are capable of, are loving expressions from the highest aspect of yourself. Teach your outer self to accept the unlimited power of your inner soul and the things you place in your imagination can become true for you.
Make meditation a regular practice in your life. You need to take time to get quiet, to go within, and from this silence make conscious contact with the source of your intention. You’re already connected to everything that you perceive as missing from your life; meditation will help you connect back to yourself, your essence.
Understanding the specific characteristics of highly functioning people, and learning how to identify with these traits is something that will help you live a fuller and more positive life. Becoming self actualized means the following;
- You become independent of the opinions of other people. Detach yourself from what others feel and think. It’s ego.
- Self-actualizers are people who have no attachment to the outcome. They know what their life is about and they get on with that.
- They have no interest or investment in power over other people. They don’t try and control or convince anyone else of their abilities. Divine ability has a quietness about it. They don’t allow controlling others to be the focus of what it is they want to do with their lives.